leper
I was at this party recently and was asked the question that I dread to even think about, let alone say out loud.
How can somebody like you be single?
I wish I have the answer to that question. Oh god, how I wish.
I remember talking to Em2 a few months ago about the same matter.
“Why should I just settle? I mean I have the certain lifestyle that I’m used to. I’m beautiful and I’m bright and I don’t think that there’s any man out there that suits me”.
I just kept my mouth shut.
I later asked a friend of mine. Why?
He simply said,
“Nobody’s good enough for me plus I’m so sick of the whole cycle. You have dinner, you talk, you tease bout sex and you pretend you‘re not interested but deep inside you are. You know the whole cycle”.
I just smiled to that comment.
I asked the same question to my other friends and most of them gave me the same answer (well maybe not the same but you’ll get the drift)
“Ugly people should just accept what come their way so that it’ll be easier for us to have the good looking ones”
“I don’t date strangers (huh?)”
“I prefer being single”
“I’m looking for the perfect one”
“I’m a leper”
Okay, so I made the last one up. But still, we give tones of excuses when it comes to the thing that we want the most. To share our life with someone. To be able to talk and just let yourself free.
I begin to wonder. Are all these excuses made to hide our fear? The fear of people thinking that we are lepers. The fear of people thinking that we are commitment phobic. To tell people that we can get one if we want to but we just don’t feel like it.
Or do we?
What if it’s not the people around us? What if the problem is us?
Are we all hoping for that knight in the shining armor (or Armani suit) to come to our rescue and drove off (sunset in the background) in a white Range Rover 4.6 HSE to a faraway country home (or Mandarin Oriental)? Are we being too picky to the point where we just narrow down to these few group of people that are totally unattainable? Why are we torturing ourselves?
Okay, so some people are just waiting for the perfect ones. The one who wears Miyake or Boss or Dior Homme. Who has a house in Kenny Hill or Taman TAR or U-Thant. The one who drives a BMW 7 Series or Mercedes S Class. Who only goes to places like Bon Ton or Tamarind Hill for dinner. Who has millions in his/her bank account.
I just finished watching the WEDDING PLANNER starring Miss Lopez and there was this one really nice line said by the father to Ms Lopez in that film. He said that
“Love is never perfect. Love is just love”
But despite all that, the people that suffered the most in this situation are the good looking ones. Nobody would wanna come up to them and talk because somehow, rumors have it that they’re with someone or that they would only go for the rich and good looking ones. Lemme tell you something. Good looking people are human too. If you like someone you should just tell them when you have the chance. Don’t let the moment pass you by. And to all those good looking people out there. Please say something. Don’t just stand there and wait for people to come to you. It’s a two way thing. One should be able to address the other and be comfortable in each other’s presence.
Back to the Riddle of the Sphinx (How can somebody like you be single?)
I don’t know. Seriously. I have no answers for that. Maybe I’m a leper.
How can somebody like you be single?
I wish I have the answer to that question. Oh god, how I wish.
I remember talking to Em2 a few months ago about the same matter.
“Why should I just settle? I mean I have the certain lifestyle that I’m used to. I’m beautiful and I’m bright and I don’t think that there’s any man out there that suits me”.
I just kept my mouth shut.
I later asked a friend of mine. Why?
He simply said,
“Nobody’s good enough for me plus I’m so sick of the whole cycle. You have dinner, you talk, you tease bout sex and you pretend you‘re not interested but deep inside you are. You know the whole cycle”.
I just smiled to that comment.
I asked the same question to my other friends and most of them gave me the same answer (well maybe not the same but you’ll get the drift)
“Ugly people should just accept what come their way so that it’ll be easier for us to have the good looking ones”
“I don’t date strangers (huh?)”
“I prefer being single”
“I’m looking for the perfect one”
“I’m a leper”
Okay, so I made the last one up. But still, we give tones of excuses when it comes to the thing that we want the most. To share our life with someone. To be able to talk and just let yourself free.
I begin to wonder. Are all these excuses made to hide our fear? The fear of people thinking that we are lepers. The fear of people thinking that we are commitment phobic. To tell people that we can get one if we want to but we just don’t feel like it.
Or do we?
What if it’s not the people around us? What if the problem is us?
Are we all hoping for that knight in the shining armor (or Armani suit) to come to our rescue and drove off (sunset in the background) in a white Range Rover 4.6 HSE to a faraway country home (or Mandarin Oriental)? Are we being too picky to the point where we just narrow down to these few group of people that are totally unattainable? Why are we torturing ourselves?
Okay, so some people are just waiting for the perfect ones. The one who wears Miyake or Boss or Dior Homme. Who has a house in Kenny Hill or Taman TAR or U-Thant. The one who drives a BMW 7 Series or Mercedes S Class. Who only goes to places like Bon Ton or Tamarind Hill for dinner. Who has millions in his/her bank account.
I just finished watching the WEDDING PLANNER starring Miss Lopez and there was this one really nice line said by the father to Ms Lopez in that film. He said that
“Love is never perfect. Love is just love”
But despite all that, the people that suffered the most in this situation are the good looking ones. Nobody would wanna come up to them and talk because somehow, rumors have it that they’re with someone or that they would only go for the rich and good looking ones. Lemme tell you something. Good looking people are human too. If you like someone you should just tell them when you have the chance. Don’t let the moment pass you by. And to all those good looking people out there. Please say something. Don’t just stand there and wait for people to come to you. It’s a two way thing. One should be able to address the other and be comfortable in each other’s presence.
Back to the Riddle of the Sphinx (How can somebody like you be single?)
I don’t know. Seriously. I have no answers for that. Maybe I’m a leper.